Frequently Asked Questions

Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy that helps you explore intimacy, desire, identity, pleasure, and more.

My approach to sex therapy is neurodivergent-affirming, queer-affirming, and always at your pace. It’s grounded in evidence-based approaches and a nonjudgmental, affirming stance.

Whether you’re working through sexual desire differences, challenges with sexual function or intimacy, difficulty reaching orgasm, or communicating your sexual needs, consent, or boundaries, I’ve got you.

No physical touch or sexual activity takes place during sessions.

That’s completely okay, and really common! You don’t have to know what to say or how to start. Part of my job is creating a space that feels safe enough to go at your own pace. We can start by naming what feels hard and build from there.

Not at all. Many people come to sex therapy as individuals. We might talk about your relationship to yourself, your body, desires, or past experiences. You don’t need a partner or any particular kink of sex life to benefit from this work.

Coming soon! Right now, I work with individuals only. I’m in the process of expanding my practice to include relational therapy for couples, triads, and other relationship constellations in the future.

If you’re looking for support as an individual navigating relationship dynamics, I’m absolutely here for that! We can explore what’s coming up for you in the relationships that matter most.

Friends and family can be amazing supports, but sometimes they have their own hopes, fears, or opinions about what you should do. In therapy, you get a space that’s just for you. I’m here to help you explore what you actually want, not what anyone else thinks you should want. We can slow things down, hold complexity, and look at patterns together with compassion.

Yes! I do provide letters of support for gender-affirming surgeries. At this time, the service is only available to clients who are engaged in ongoing therapy with me.

There is a $35 fee for letter writing, which covers the time and care I put into ensuring your letter meets WPATH standards and reflects your individual experience.

If you’re looking for a one-time assessment or standalone letter, I’d be happy to refer you to affirming providers who offer that service.

Absolutely! While I center the LGBTQ+ community in my practice, I believe that everyone can benefit from an expansive take on sexuality, gender, and relationships.

Absolutely. You don’t need a formal diagnosis to work with me. Many of my clients are self-identified or exploring whether neurodivergence resonates with their experience.

Whether you have a diagnosis, are questioning, or simply relate to neurodivergent traits, like sensory sensitivity, burnout, masking, or a need for more structure, we can build a therapeutic space that supports your unique way of being.

Virtual therapy can offer flexibility and comfort. If you have a tight schedule, like the idea of showing up in your own space, or in your comfy clothes, virtual therapy might be a great fit.

Many people wonder if virtual therapy is as effective as in-person therapy. Research shows that virtual therapy can be just as helpful, and for many folks, being in a comfortable space can actually make it easier to open up and engage in the work.

All sessions are held via a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform through SimplePractice. You just need a private space, good internet connection, and a device with a camera.

Most clients start with weekly sessions, but we can adjust based on what works for you. Once we’ve established a foundation, we may move to bi-weekly sessions if that fits your needs and goals. Some clients with especially busy schedules begin with bi-weekly from the start, though this can make the process slower at first.

There’s no fixed number of sessions in therapy. Some people come for short-term support around a specific issue, while others stay longer to explore deeper patterns or ongoing growth. We’ll check in regularly to make sure therapy is working for you.

I offer therapy sessions Monday through Thursday from 9:00 am to 12:00 pm and 2:00 pm to 5:00 pm Mountain Time. These hours apply to both Illinois and Colorado clients since I work virtually across both states.

If you’re looking for therapy during daytime hours, feel free to reach out and see what openings I currently have.

If you need to cancel or reschedule, please give at least 24 hours’ notice to avoid being charged the full session fee. You can manage appointments directly through the SimplePractice client portal, or you’re welcome to text or email me at 970-414-7606 or marlee@queerlyhealingtherapies.com.

I understand life can be unpredictable, especially if you’re dealing with chronic illness, executive dysfunction challenges, or just a packed schedule. If something comes up, I’ll do my best to work with you when possible, including rescheduling within the same week if I have openings.

Yes, I reserve a limited number of sliding scale spots for clients who would otherwise be unable to access therapy. These spots are offered on financial need and availability.

If cost is a concern, feel free to reach out. I’m happy to let you know if I currently have sliding scale openings or to offer referrals to other affirming therapists and low-cost options if I’m full.

Yes! I love working with LGBTQ+ folks. Whether you’re exploring your identity, building queer community, or working through internalized messages, you are fully welcome here.

Absolutely! As a neurodivergent person myself, I love working with other neurodivergent individuals, including people who are Autistic, ADHD, have sensory processing differences, or are exploring their relationship to neurodivergence.

I work from the neurodiversity paradigm, which means I view neurodivergence as a natural variation of how minds and bodies exist, not something to fix or pathologize. You won’t be expected to mask, “overcome,” or force yourself to fit neurotypical norms.

Instead, we’ll create a space that honors your sensory needs, communication style, and ways of processing the world. My approach is affirming, collaborative, and grounded in respect for your lived experience.

Yes, often! I enjoy working with people in polyamorous, non-monogamous, open, and other alternative relationship structures.

Whether you’re solo poly, in a long-term polycule, exploring relationship anarchy, or figuring out what feels right for you, we can create space to talk through communication, boundaries, jealousy, identity, intimacy, and whatever else is coming up without judgement.

Yes, I support people who are asexual, aromantic, or questioning. I offer a space where you can talk about intimacy, connection, and identity without pressure to conform to allosexual or amatonormative expectations.

Yes, I offer kink-aware therapy. Whether you’re exploring your desires, navigating consent, or unpacking shame, we can talk about it openly and without judgment.

I also believe there’s really no “TMI” in therapy.

Yes! I’m licensed in both Illinois and Colorado, and all of my sessions are virtual. Whether you’re in Chicago, Denver, or anywhere else in either state, we can work together.